Little Words, Big Impact
We have all heard the expression ‘actions speak louder than words’. While this may often be the case, words can in fact speak just as loudly if not more so and resonate with us long after they have been said.
A little over a year or so ago while on vacation with my husband in Antigua, I met an extremely nice lady and told her of my writing aspirations. Her name was Dot and although she was a proverbial dot in the midst of the many people whom I have crossed paths with, the few conversations I had with her stuck with me and I have not forgotten her, almost a year and a half later.
She and her husband had returned to that same resort every vacation for the past several years. Although I try to travel somewhere different on each holiday, I have considered going back to that resort, at the same time of year I went before, just on the off chance that I would get to see her again.
Somehow this kind lady was convinced that I was going to make it as a writer, that my novel would be published and that she would come to see me if I were ever on a book tour. Of course I wanted to believe her. Why not make a choice to listen to words that were exactly what I wanted to hear?
I foolishly neglected to get her contact information, thinking I would have a chance to respond to her once she reached out to me and I have often wondered whether or not she has ever stumbled upon any of my published work or for that matter if she has ever checked out my website or read any of my blog posts.
While I was still on the vacation, I did say I was going to get my website up as soon as possible when I got home. As that did not end up happening until about six or seven months later, I hope she did not give up on me because I have not given up on the chance that I will hear from her again when I least expect it.
I have this dream that one day I will get a message from her perhaps commenting on something I have written. She did say she was going to look for me on the Internet. “Oh I will remember your name,” she informed me. “I’ll look you up. I’m going to keep an eye out to see if your book gets published.”
Although we went our separate ways after the week was over, her words resounded with me; I wonder if she had any idea how helpful her encouragement was, regardless of the short time we knew one another.
As much as an unkind or critical word can hurt someone and sometimes even affect the rest of his or her day, words of praise and optimism can do just the opposite. Sometimes we do not realize how powerful our words are to another person. Things we say really can make a difference and maybe that one little encouraging word is all is takes to give someone else, whether they are someone we know well or someone who briefly passes through our lives, the confidence they need to forge ahead with their dreams.
Surprisingly, sometimes the people who make brief appearances in our lives are the ones whose words impact us most. At first I was sceptical about the woman’s optimism. After all, how could someone I hardly know make such a judgement – good or bad – about me? I decided to believe her enthusiasm because it helped to provide me with the springboard I needed to get started on my new path.
A little kindness really can go a long way, even if it is only in the form of a few encouraging words. I really believe that we meet certain people for a reason and at the right time, no matter how brief that time together may be.
Perhaps one day I will receive a surprise, most welcome message from the lady I met in Antigua. If not, if she happens to read this and even if she chooses not to leave any comment whatsoever, I hope she will know how important her words were to me and how glad I was to have met her. Who knows, maybe one day I really will see her again, perhaps at my book signing, especially if things turn out the way she said they would.♥
Copyright © by Andrea Freedman 2013
Posted on August 6, 2013, in Weekly Thoughts and Observations and tagged Have you ever wondered if something you said had a lasting effect on someone?. Bookmark the permalink. 2 Comments.